It was really hard in the beginning of the pregnancy to feel that 'connection' for me, mostly because I didn't show until I was about 7 months and it almost didn't feel real. I'm sure a lot of other people were wondering if it was real too, haha. If you are finding that you feel the same, I have some perfect ways for you and your partner to bond with your bump!
Talk to your belly. I talk to him like he's my best friend, like he's sitting on the couch next to me. I tell him about what I did during the day, what my thoughts are, what I'm excited about, what I see for him in the future, the holidays we are going to take, the fun things we are going to do together like decorating the house for Christmas and watching fireworks on New Years Eve. The more I talk to him, the more I feel a connection with what our lives will actually be like in the not too distant future. I can't even tell you how excited it makes me!
Singing! I sing to my belly every single day, there's a few songs that I have been singing since I found out that I was pregnant. I'm really excited to see if he reacts to them once he is born. We also play a lot of music, and a lot of different kinds of music. It's really nice to just sit in the chair in the nursery and play music, rub my belly and close my eyes. He kicks a lot when I do it, so I assume he likes it too. Either that or he is very particular already and he's telling me to skip to the next track!
Bring it down a notch! You are probably freaking out over the million things you want to do before you give birth, but you will be fine. Nesting will probably kick in soon and you might feel like you need to go go go. Make sure you take some time out every single day to just sit and relax, and think about how much of a blessing it is to have what you have in your life right now.
Get your partner involved. Have them rub your belly and talk to your belly. He/she can hear you, and loves to hear you. The one thing you have to remember is that your baby is now sensitive to light, to voices and he/she can feel you when you touch your belly. I love watching my husbands face when he gets a nice big kick!
Take photos and write in your diary! One of my favourite things is to look at photos of the ultrasounds, photos of my belly, or read my diary and really feel that connection and joy.
Write a letter to your future son/daughter. I haven't done this yet, but I do plan on it. I imagine giving it to him when he's a little older and watching him react to all the crazy things that I went through just to get him here. It will also help you to visualise what you want for him/her in the future and for their life.
Remember - if you feel like you haven't been bonding with your bump - don't worry. I promise they won't hold it against you. Try when you can, and if you are simply too busy running around with work and other children or just life in general, I have no doubt you will more than make up for it when he/she actually arrives, and he/she will know exactly how much you love them.
Pregnancy is almost over for me, and it's really nice to be able to take it all in and appreciate this special time.
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